Why Dating As a Musician Is So Hard…

The dating world for musicians is often a complex one.

I’ll be writing this article based on my personal experience as a single male musician. I’m also based in New York City, which makes dating even harder. But whether you’re a male or female in the music industry, there are various complexities that can make romance extremely challenging.

Before I even get into it, let me properly preface this with some important context. Pay attention to the next line.

As a musician, dating is not as glorious as the stereotype makes it seem.

the False Truths:

To every non-musician reading this, you’re just an outsider looking in. Your entire life, you’ve been fed lies. Here are some of the most common false truths about musicians when it comes to dating, especially for up-and-coming musicians:

• Musicians/Artists get TONS of gorgeous women falling for them.
• Musicians/Artists regularly get groupies after all their shows.
• Musicians/Artists can get any mate they choose.
• Musicians/Artists have a lot of money.
• Musicians/Artists are players, or promiscuous.
• Musicians/Artists get panties (or bras, or boxer shorts) thrown at them.

Now I’ll be honest, I have my fair share of female supporters, but nothing comes close to an official ‘groupie’. And to every dude dreaming of becoming a rock star just for the chicks, I may have just shattered your hopes and dreams. Sorry (but not sorry), the truth is you’ll never make it on that motivation alone.